“Watching confidence grow into independence” - Denbighshire foster carer reflects on breakthrough moments for Foster Care Fortnight

The first time a child laughs, opens up about their day, asks to watch a film; these are moments that many might take for granted, but for foster carers in Wales, they symbolise one thing, a breakthrough.

Rob

Children who have experienced trauma often develop ways of protecting themselves. This might include behaviour such as anxiety, emotional shutdown, intense reactions or difficulty following rules.

A national survey commissioned by Foster Wales found around 80% of carers surveyed have supported children who displayed behaviour like this. While these challenges can be tough, half of foster carers surveyed also said they noticed a meaningful breakthrough within the first six months.

Foster carers shared that these breakthrough moments were often centred around small moments of connection, but they represent more than that: for children in care, it means they have made progress, they have started to feel safe, they have started to heal, to feel loved and to feel supported following childhood trauma.

After experience, support and professional guidance, almost all carers (93%) said they are now confident responding to trauma‑related behaviour.

The findings are released ahead of Foster Care Fortnight, the UK’s largest annual campaign to raise awareness of fostering, which takes place every May. This year’s theme, 'This is Fostering', shines a spotlight on the real experiences of foster carers and the vital role they play in helping children feel safe.

Rob from Denbighshire says his decision to become a foster carer was deeply influenced by his own upbringing and family life. Growing up alongside his siblings, with his father playing a central role in their day-to-day care, and later becoming a parent himself, Rob developed the values, patience and understanding that ultimately led him into fostering.

One of the most powerful aspects of his journey has been witnessing a young person in his care move confidently into adulthood and independence.

“Seeing them go to college, get themselves up in the mornings, take the bus and show up for themselves every day has been incredibly rewarding.

It’s the little things that matter most, those everyday moments that show growing confidence and independence — and they reassure me that I’ve done something right.

Above all, my fostering experience has been full of unforgettable memories. Many of those moments are among the best of my life, and watching a child grow and thrive is something that’s hard to put into words — it’s incredibly meaningful and deeply rewarding.”

Rhiain Morrlle, Head of Children's Services at Denbighshire County Council said:

“We are extremely proud of foster carers like Rob and their families. Fostering goes far beyond providing a safe and stable home — it’s about nurturing a sense of belonging and developing strong, supportive relationships that enable children and young people to thrive.

Stories like Rob’s highlight how powerful those everyday breakthrough moments can be — from small steps towards independence to the confidence that grows over time.

Foster Care Fortnight is an opportunity to celebrate these life-changing moments and to recognise and thank our dedicated fostering community here in Denbighshire for the difference they make every day.”

To find out more about becoming a foster carer in Denbighshire, visit: denbighshire.fosterwales.gov.wales